- I don't know what to do
- You don't know what you want...
- That I do, I want to be with Angel
- But you're full of uncertainties about her, you have certainty and true love from Tide
- ... and I still want to be with Angel...
- So you have to leave Tide then, leave her, everything she is, everything she is willing to give you, behind.
- Yes. Yes, but I don't know how to do it - she loves me so. I will again look like a fool for abandoning someone who is willing to give me her all. I am the fool in all this, no doubt about it. If Angel would choose not to be with me and I leave Tide, then that's a fate I will accept. If Angel didn't exist though, I would find solice in Tide and I cannot do this to her. I cannot make Tide second, I cannot make a fool of her any more than I already have. I must leave Tide.
- ... and what if this is only a wave? What if what's happening is simply a fad and you will get back on track to loving Tide as you would like to?
- I will still have made a fool of her and be unable to look in the mirror.
- Then you must end it with Tide.
- If I must, then why do I try so hard to make her believe everything is alright? Why do I keep on doing things to reassure her? I'm afraid of hurting her, yes; but I think I'm also afraid of losing her and jumping into the unknown. I can see myself already now regretting losing someone like her who gave me her heart so fully. I can also see the pain I would be causing her if I were to do so. Only yesterday, she burst out in tears during love-making and later she told me that she adores me and that she adores me much more than I do her. I sat there, I asked her why she said that. She said "just" and I didn't deny it, just looked at her saddened. Was I sad because of what I thought was going through her head? Was I sad maybe because I was unable to love her as much as she does me? Or was it simply that I was sad because I knew our love affair was slowly dwindling to an end before both our eyes... Sad because of regret for what was to come.
- Do you want to reciprocate? Do you want to love her as much as she loves you?
- I do; but I also want to be with Angel.
- You can't do both: you have to choose.
- I know - my brain tells me that I have a sure thing with Tide, that I should stay with her, work on it. My heart tells me that I want to be with Angel; my heart also tells me that I cannot hurt Tide. Tide has found her way into my world and is accepted by friends and family alike. Cutting those ties, building new ones is not something I want to do. Angel is someone I've known for five years now and had fun with for five years. She's full of life and can give my life meaning and joy. She's also passionate and able to get upset and angry with me barely twitching... I don't know what I want.
- You do know what you want.
- Yes, I do. I know what I want. I just don't want to do what I need to get it.
- You can choose to do it or choose to let time go by and hope that the situation resolves itself.
- I also sit here thinking that what I want will change.
- It very well could. It probably will: you can choose not to follow your heart, not to follow what you want. You can choose to try to fight your desires that are shaping your will. That is the real choice you have to make. At some point you have to decide, "this is it: I will do everything in my power to keep this going, because I know in the end, that it's what I want and it's worth it." How you will know that you are at that point, only you can tell. Be aware though, even at that point, desires will come in to blur your vision and you will need to stand your ground. One thing I can see with certainty though is that these changes pain you and you are indeed seeking something that will last for the rest of your life.